Bar Marco Wedding: Elke and Jon Eloped!
It’s pretty killer what a couple from out of town reaches out to book me for their wedding! Elke and Jon are no exception. The moment they said they were hosting a Thursday Bar Marco wedding, I was all in. Elke is WAY more eloquent that I am, so I’ll let her share more from her perspective. Thanks a million for allowing me to share and capture the joy of your big day!
From the bride, Elke
What was your inspiration behind your wedding day?
My husband (husband!! still eek-ing over that one…) and I wanted our wedding to basically be a really good dinner party with friends and family. So we knew from the start that we would keep the day fairly intimate, and we focused on sharing fantastic food and wine with the people who matter most to us.
With that said, all our vendors were amazing, and even though we kept things simple, the many small details that they helped us to pull together made our wedding that much more special.
Advice to share with brides planning now?
Hmm this is a tough one. Honestly, I would just say focus on the things that are important to you and your partner early on (even if no one else understands or agrees with you on their importance) and try not to second-guess yourself once you’ve made those decisions.
Also, I was really overwhelmed at the beginning of our engagement, which is when everyone else was the most excited, and I feel like I didn’t take enough time then to just let people have their conversations and ideas with me and later on I wished that I had. Learn how to listen to people’s ideas without agreeing or disagreeing right away.
Simply saying “Thanks for sharing, we’ll think about that” followed up later by “We don’t think that will work with us” will leave room for you to have your own ideas without creating a barrier between you and your friends and family.
How did you and your spouse meet?
My best friend Sarah introduced us! She met him at a good friend’s birthday party in San Francisco, where he lived at the time, and when he moved down to Los Angeles a few months later he didn’t know many people and so basically had no choice but to hang out with us all the time. It helped that I lived a mile down the road (pretty much the distance limit in LA due to our crazy traffic).
What was your favorite memory from your big day?
I asked my husband (there it is again!!) Jon this question, and we both have the same answer – the moment we saw each other on either end of the aisle at the ceremony. We had opted not to do a first look and it was just the right choice for us.
But really, we have so many amazing memories. Our ceremony, which we worked with friend/officiant Meg to create, and which we think ended up being a really true reflection of our values and what we want from our partnership. My dad’s prayer at the start of the ceremony – neither Jon nor I are especially religious, but my dad always says a very simple, heartfelt prayer at family events, and I knew from the beginning that I wanted him to do the same at our wedding.
Walking back down the aisle with our dog Pippa, which was a special dream of mine. My mom’s toast at dinner was very her and lovely and the one thing I wish we had a video of.
Also our faves… seeing Jon’s grandparents sharing a dance (they’ve been married almost 70 years!), walking out of the bathroom to find every person at the wedding singing and dancing madly along to Whitney Houston’s “Dance with Somebody,” my flower crown (SO GOOD), our baby champagne tower, the 10-person pyramid Jon and his friends made at the end of the night (for mid-thirties those guys are pretty agile!).
Lastly, I know for sure that we had the absolute best team of vendors in Pittsburgh. Seriously, we did our wedding on a pretty good budget (hello, Thursday wedding out of town and simple details!), and that we had these amazing, best of their kind, caring people working with us still blows my mind. We will be forever grateful.
Vendors Who Made It Happen
Venue: Union Hall at Bar Marco
Event Planner: Melissa Crawford/Devoted to You Events
Florist: The Farmer’s Daughter
Wedding Dress Designer: My dress was my mom’s, made by my great-grandmother in 1977, and remade by friend and wedding dress wizard Tashina Hunter for me 40 years later (www.misstashina.com)
Hair and Makeup: Marissa Julin
Accessory Information: My bracelet was made by The Neshama Project, an awesome company in Los Angeles founded by friend Rachelle Tratt. She personally sources stones in Israel and a portion of profits goes to non-profit organizations chosen by Rachelle and her team
Bride’s Shoe Designer: Charlotte Stone
Bride’s Ring Designer:
engagement ring – vintage (purchased at Love Adorned); wedding band – Young in the Mountains
Bridesmaid’s Dress Designer: great-grandma/Tashina Hunter
Groom Attire Designer: Ted Baker
Groom Ring Designer: Julio Benez at Artisan LA jewelry, a shop in our Los Feliz neighborhood
Paper Goods Company: Invitations and seating chart made by Elke, using a sketch done by Los Angeles friend and artist Dominique Genereaux, based on Elke’s parents’ wedding invitation
Calligrapher: WillowWynn Co.
Catering: Bar Marco
DJ: Tim Milko @ Gitano Productions
Bakery: Donuts from Peace, Love, and Little Donuts (Strip District location)
Furniture Rentals: Cake stands from Vintage Alley Rentals